At some point in your childhood, you most likely asked your parents where babies come from. And they most likely responded with, “You’ll find out when you’re older.” You do, in fact, find out when you’re older. The topic of sex is portrayed everywhere in our everyday lives and is shown almost everywhere. “You’ll find […]
Over the past week, I have been thinking about the Serenity Prayer and its connection to the Wizard of Oz. Some of you might be looking at your phone or computer and wondering if I have lost my mind again. I beg for your patience and to hear me out. This message was inspired by […]
Times have changed. When I was a child, there were very few resources on how to talk to children about sex, much less how to raise sexually healthy kids. Today, there are good resources on the market to help parents work with children. I won’t even try to list them. The fact that we have […]
For those who don’t know or may have forgotten it is masturbation month. The progression of sexual health and female sexuality and independence, which isn’t to say that guys don’t indulge in, the sometimes still taboo act of, masturbation can be summed up with a story that some may remember. Back in 1994, our surgeon […]
Disclosure: The Problem with Reassurance In recovery, disclosure is an important and difficult undertaking for the addict, the partner, and the relationship. For the partner, disclosure is often traumatic to varying degrees. As the addict, there are things you can do to make the disclosure process easier and there are things you can do that […]
Teen Females with PSB The client is a 15-year-old girl referred by her guidance counselor. “Amber” has been disciplined by her high school for sending naked selfies to her boyfriend, which came to the attention of a teacher as the sexts were liberally shared around the sprawling suburban campus. Her horrified parents initially labeled the […]
Intimate Betrayal: A Unique Trauma If you are reading this blog then you are likely here because someone you love has betrayed you with his or her harmful or compulsive sexual behavior. Perhaps the person who has hurt you is someone you deeply love and trusted most in this world – your husband or wife, […]
The Many Gifts of Disclosure Helping couples dealing with sexual betrayal navigate the process of getting to, going through, and healing after disclosure is a complex process, demanding a high level of skill, wisdom, adaptability, and structure on the part of the therapist. Disclosure, as a key phase in the recovery process for both the […]
Todays’ Pornography, #Metoo, and Some Very Disturbing Patterns of Porn Fueled “Bad Dates” When I think about pornography and its impact on society these days, I am stunned by how things have changed over the last 25 years. As a sex therapist certified in the very early 1990’s I was trained in the late 1980’s, […]
